He’s Not Paying Child Support
My single mom girlfriend Stacey is distraught that her ex has stopped paying support, but still sees their kids. He claims to be out of work has not given her money in over six months. She’s furious that he recently took a vacation with his new girlfriend, but claims his girlfriend paid. Stacey wants to terminate his visitation.
BOTTOM LINE
The ex is legally obligate to pay support and if he doesn’t pay he is in contempt of court.
Get a lawyer or an agency to help you get the funds you deserve. Let the system work for you. In my opinion, if your ex continues to see your child you might need to accept that this is as good as it’s going to get at this time. Unfortunately, I have several other single mom girlfriends who have an out of work ex, but these guys love their kids and they still show up. They even go on vacation and often let their new girlfriends pay. They don’t have any shame about any of this.
HOW TO HANDLE IT
It’s better to keep your ex in the picture even if he’s not paying, but don’t give up on getting the system to work on your behalf. Even though the process is emotionally and mentally exhausting. Don’t give up. Your child has a right to be cared for financially and let the court decide what that is.
Child support and visitation rights are two different issues. If your ex is a good enough parent, but isn’t paying child support you shouldn’t deny him visitation. My single mom girlfriend Jenny accepts her ex, who is an out of work musician, will never make a consistent financial contribution. He’s a wonderful dad despite his inability to make a steady income. The arrangement allows Jenny to work at her lucrative job in advertising and have time for herself.
I’ve had friends get as little as $125 dollars a month and much as $7,000 thousand dollars. When the ex suddenly experienced a change in income or suddenly resented the amount he had to pay he would withdraw funds. No wonder divorce attorneys make so much money. In some cases the battle goes on for years.
You have to wait until the court rules. If you want to terminate his parental rights be sure you can do without the support.
Usually when the ex is delinquent about money he often disappears. If your ex is still around consider it a good sign that you will get the support that’s due in the future. Men who see their children usually pay child support.
A child deserves support whether the parents are married or not. If the father of your child had no desire to be a parent and you got pregnant on purpose be prepared for an expensive battle if you are trying to collect child support.